You guys, I think we have a problem. Our generation is getting a bad reputation, and we’re hurting each other without even realizing it.
Have you ever thrown a party or hosted an event? You spend weeks organizing it, use your own money to purchase food and other necessities, and clean your home in hopes that all your guests have a good time. It’s a lot of work, but you feel it’s worth it. Time spent with good friends is always worth it, right?
Then you send out the invites. There are those few awesome folks who respond quickly with their yes or no. Some can’t make it because of previous engagements or work, and others are excited to join you for a good time. Then there are the maybes. These are the ones who can’t decide whether or not they want to come, so they leave you hanging until they can confidently confirm either way. And lastly, there are the ones who don’t even respond. They act as though being invited matters to them so little, that they need not even respond. No one will notice, right?
Oh, they notice! They notice when no one confirms for the birthday party their child has been excited about for weeks. They notice when those ten people they paid for at the wedding don’t show. And they notice when 6pm rolls around and dinner has been cooked for 8, only to have 4 arrive on time.
Friends, which one of these people are you? And do you feel like your response is an accurate representation of who you are?
Millennials (mostly born between the 80’s and 90’s) are considered to be a generation of flakes. We’ve been labeled non-committal. We don’t like to be tied down and we want to do what we want, when we want to do it. We’re known for being the least independent, the most depressed and anxious, and the least employable. We want the best, but only desire to put in the least. In other words, we think the world revolves around us.
I don’t know about you, but I would hate to be thought of this way.
Words like these haven’t always been used to describe young adults, and I think this is one of those situations where technology is hindering, not helping us. Within a couple of seconds you can text, email, or click ‘not attending’ and quickly excuse yourself from anything you no longer feel up to. You don’t have to look anyone in the face or talk to them on the phone and apologize. It’s too easy, and we can quickly move on without feeling bad about it. It’s not right.
Please RSVP – You Aren’t the MVP
Being invited to something use to be special. In older generations an invite was an honor, and you showed up on time – dressed in your best! It was a matter of respect and an acknowledgment of the kindness extended. I’m not saying we should go back to those days and wear fancy hats and dresses to dinner, but I do think we need to bring back some sense of manners and politeness.
We’re becoming a society that is more wrapped up in living in our online world than in real life relationships. We’re too busy doing things that don’t matter so that people perceive us in a specific way. And we’re hurting the people that actually care enough to want to spend time with us.
So if you find yourself scratching your head wondering why you feel so lonely lately, perhaps it’s time to examine how you’re living your life.
Oh, and please RSVP. You aren’t the MVP.