We’re Still Breastfeeding and My Daughter is 16 Months.
I didn’t have any real expectations in regards to how long we’d do this thing. My goal was to make it to a year simply because I didn’t want to pay for formula. I know the benefits and I’m cool with the convenience. My Doctor has backed me up and encouraged me to continue til she’s at least two. I’m thankful for that support.
Still Breastfeeding at 16 months? How does that even work?
That doesn’t mean I haven’t laid down some ground rules. We no longer nurse at night unless she’s sick. Most of the time her wanting to nurse is more of a comfort thing than anything else, so it makes sense that when she doesn’t feel good she wants to be close to me. If we’re out and about, she likely won’t ask for it at all and I won’t offer it. If were at home and she’s having a bad day, she’s constantly requesting it.
My daughter loves food and she’s taking in enough of it to not require so much of my milk. However, she’s still having a rough time transitioning to other liquids. She’ll drink water but doesn’t like regular milk. When she’s thirsty, she wants to breastfeed. We’re working on it, but it’s not as easy as simply saying goodbye to nursing.
I understand that this isn’t normal for a lot of people these days. In fact, it seems to make a lot of folks downright uncomfortable, though I’m not totally sure why. I don’t use a nursing cover but I’m super discreet. If I know I’m close to someone who is super uncomfortable with what I’m doing I have zero issues turning away from them while I feed my child. I’m not about to make a mountain out of a molehill.
This isn’t about me. I’m not having a hard time letting go because she’s my last baby. One of these days we will get to the point where I’ll say ‘no more.’ I’ll feel confident in her abilities to seek comfort and the nutrition she needs elsewhere and we’ll move on to the next phase of her life. She’s just not there yet, and that’s okay.
I don’t plan to nurse her past two, but that’s me. Where you stopped in your breastfeeding journey is none of my business, just as you don’t get to have an opinion on mine. I share this so that others who have felt judged for so-called extended breastfeeding can know they aren’t alone. We aren’t crazy or gross because we nursed past one. We’re simply Moms doing what we feel is best for our babies today.
My daughter is 16 months and we’re still breastfeeding. That’s fine with me.